Human beings define their reality through misery and suffering….

“Nobody wants to be with someone who loves them, people hate that. You want to be with somebody that doesn’t like you. I am never saying ‘I love you’ again unless they say it first” Wale (The Album About Nothing)…

This brings me to a quote I read but can’t remember where… it went something like: “If you want a nice guy, stop treating the nice guys like shit”. Now I’m not one to say people do not know what they want, people do know what they want but they lie about it hence they paint perfect fairytail stories of how the perfect guy or girl should be like. For example, we men might talk all the crap in the world about bad girls with naked pictures and twerk videos on social media, but get to the club and just as the last call for alcohol is being made we jump at any chance to take that very same bad girl we talked smash about home.

Or what about those girls that complain frequently about how their boyfriends treats them bad but they always keep going back? Are you noticing a trend here? It surely can’t be by chance, this lead me to the conclusion that human being lie about what they really want. As much as one would love a woman who can cook a mean meal and make you pass out right after indulging, we at the same time wish for that bad girl that gives you a lap dance right after church, but given the good image we want to paint we lie about what we really want.

So me being the friendly informational good guy that I am, I’ve managed to research and compile a list of reasons why overly sweet guys finish last

1 Women have a biological need to nurture

Women as it may are said to have an inner need to nurture inscribed within their DNA, they do this with children and men. Instead of finding and keeping a good man, women naturally opt for the broken dude that they feel they can fix. A good guy isn’t broken so he presents no challenge, bad boys on the other hand present a huge challenge which makes the relationship interesting as they deem this a challenge and everyone loves a challenge as it serves as an opportunity to prove yourself.

2 Good guys are mostly predictable (BOOOOOring)

Being unpredictable serves as an adventure, you never know what he might do next, which makes life interesting. Unpredictable is seen as exciting.

3 Confidence is sexy

Someone told me confidence is a natural aphrodisiac, good guys are mostly preoccupied with making others happy, they most of the time second guess whatever it is they do, this makes them look unsure and indecisive, people in general love someone who is perfectly assured with every aspect of themselves.

4 Human beings define their reality through misery and suffering

“The first Matrix was designed to be perfect, but the human beings would not accept this, some say that we lacked the programming language to describe your perfect world. But I believe that, as a species, human beings define their reality through misery and suffering. The perfect world was a dream that your primitive cerebrum kept trying to wake up from” Agent Smith (The Matrix)

Why the above? well ask the heartbroken friend that you constantly comforting why they always go back to the partner that almost always hurts them.

What am I trying to get at with this article? Being preoccupied with everything most of the time, I just thought it was time we wrote about nothing….. but yeh, dating, relationships and people just generally puzzle me, we overlook the good that we have and crave the bad that isn’t at all good for us. As ungenius as it may seem, most of us men play the game based on the rules that women set, if they like bad boys, we will gladly become bad just so we fit into their criteria. Women having the ability to nurture and drive men to a falsified personality trait have the same power to redefine the rules of the game and make being a good guy seem cool. It’s your pick ladies.

“If you want a nice guy, stop treating the nice guys like shit”

Article inspired by the song ‘The one time in Houston’ from Wale’s album (The Album About Nothing)

Article by Kagiso Maloma

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