Building An Ideal Man….
So I found me a couple of bucks and decided to go shopping lol. I must say the first time I took a look at this I already knew what it was going to be, decision making of this kind is easy when you know what it is that you want in a man…these are my thoughts and opinions on the items on the list..
1. Good looking is a must, well at least you need to find him attractive and that attraction should be yours and yours only, but through the years I’ve realized that a lot of women have turned a blind eye to this very important aspect because of money, I mean truthfully we are all different and therefore attraction is subject to preference but most times you just need to call it as it is, unless of course you would rather spend the rest of your life not looking forward to going home after a hard day’s work lol…
2. Funny is for me thee most important quality of them all, in my opinion, if he doesn’t possess any humor whatsoever and doesn’t make me laugh to the depths of my belly, then he is not the one for me, and humour isn’t manufactured, it’s impromptu and effortless and it should take you no more than one conversation to figure it out, if he doesn’t make you laugh then he’s not the one for you…
“He must be ablemake me laugh to the depths of my belly”
3. Smart is another quality aspect that is non-negotiable, you not only want a man who is book smart, but you want him to be street smart and hold a high level of social and emotional intelligence. This being that he needs to be focused, a people’s person and be able to keep to both afloat when the going gets tough and guide you in the right direction, teach you…
“He should hold a high level of social and emotional intelligence”
4. Great in bed…whatever that means, I suppose there’s only so much one can do with regards to that, many claim to be kings and queens of hlokolozing but in truth have and still continue to fail dismally. I think that in itself lies in his creativity, humour, the way he talks and quite frankly the way he looks, I think that ability in itself can be distinguished by just having a conversation with the person, if he doesn’t do it for you in words then i don’t see how he could ever entice your imagination. With that said, it’s not either persons responsibility to keep the other interested or try a little harder to keep one, it’s either they want to be with you or not, you do not have to keep him or her interested, if that’s the case then you’re with the wrong person honey…
“many claim to be kings and queens of hlokolozing…”
5. Faithful is hilarious, that is something you can’t and shouldn’t even attempt to buy, by buying this item on the list is no better than that korobela, why would you want to keep a man who clearly doesn’t want to be with you? let him fly, let him be himself and in that will he find his place and subsequently himself, then you will be happy, knowing as much as he has the freedom to be with the rest, he has chosen to be with you, so I wouldn’t spend my money buying this commodity…
“buying this item on the list is no better than that korobela”
6. Wealth is another of those that I wouldn’t buy, but an item that I know most women would put first. For me money isn’t important, passion is. Money can only do so much and it will not give you any of the other items listed. If he’s intelligent or smart he can clearly figure something out…
“For me money isn’t important, passion is”
7. No kids-lol…I personally prefer that he doesn’t have kids, yes I know that most of our peers have kids, I too have friends who have kids and in all instances it didn’t go well with the baby daddy so why would I want to jump myself right into all this mess? My theory is if I don’t have kids then there surely has to be another guy out there who doesn’t have kids. I refuse to settle and we too want to be original baby mamas lol…
“I refuse to settle…”
8. Tall is another quality I deem important because I am going to be a team mom lol…I will be breeding professional athletes and I will need a tall man’s genes to see that to fruition lol. A tall man with West African genes at that lol. This is non-negotiable thank you…
9. A great body in the sense that he must be healthy and show some self-loving, don’t look like a body builder though, don’t be skinny too, put in a little effort in your health consciousness and this brings me back to number 8, I am a professional athlete breeder so I’ll need a male of quality pedigree lol…
“some self-loving, don’t look like a body builder though”
10. Romance and how romantic he is brings me back to humour, romance can be awkwardly boring but if your sense of humour is sub-par then it is deemed useless, by me lol.
with all the above said to each her own….
Article by Malea Langa (@lovelanga Instagram)
