Do you remember that friend of mine I left on the other side, Fear (Pain)? What I didn’t mention is he had introduced me to another friend, but I never really got to know her name because she was always so quiet, always seemed afraid to speak when Pain is around. Apparently they always had fallouts, because Pain claimed she always had an intention of getting closer to his friends (drama, drama, drama, you see why Pain had to go, I don’t like drama)
Anyways, after my separation with Pain, this friend asked me to invite her over for “a talk”. People get invited for drinks, lunch, dinner and she wants to be invited for “a talk?” I was a bit skeptical about the whole idea, knowing very well that she might end up talking about him (Pain). I was not surprised when she started the conversation which happened to be about him, but she mentioned that she actually wanted me to know her better. Like know her better? Is she high on something?
She said to me: “Remember when you and Pain were best friends, when he pretended to be something he was not, a caring friend? I know you no longer see that in him. I understand that he is no longer part of your life but I need you to let go, forgive him and move on. Sometimes forgiveness might seem or feel impossible, it might seem like you are giving your heart to the same people that trampled on it”
The whole time I am thinking, my confusion mode just officially got activated. What on earth is she on about? But I looked into her eyes and I saw something much appealing for me to yearn for more. Her emotional state was so genuine that I couldn’t really ask her to leave, she was so sincere.
She carried on “You want to be happy right? Unfortunately the grudge you are holding is only hurting you more, the longer you attempt to forgive the longer the pain will burn in your heart. Forgive in order to remove the heavy burden you’ve been carrying around. Forgive so that you let go off all the negative energy and bring about positive energy in your life, with positive energy infused into everything you do, whatever you desire manifests more quickly, and in the process great things happen. When you allow yourself to forgive, you find inner peace, humility and set aside the notion that you are too great to forgive. And when you forgive, you begin to heal and you are lead back to a joyful life. When you open your heart to forgiveness, others will find a room in their hearts to forgive you” She was not reciting a poem, OH my God woman was actually telling me about herself. I wish knew about her much earlier. My respond to her was “Forgiveness, your silence has been too loud for my liking, and from now on I need you close to me, we need to be able to converse at all times. I am taking you with me everywhere now, you are officially stuck with me for life”
We always find it in our hearts to forgive partners and friends that hurt us, which is great, we must forgive them. But we always find it so hard to find it in our hearts to forgive our families. What hurts more is that at times it is so hard to tell about our families. But how can we not talk about family when family is everything? While your friends may be there for you today, you never know about tomorrow. Nothing holds people together like a family bond. The love that binds you is deeper than anything you can ever imagine, they also deserve the benefit of your forgiveness. And as you forgive be open to new beginnings. Forgive them because life is too short to carry grudges. Imagine how sad it would be that you continued to carry the burden of hurt and pain and refused to forgive the person that might be gone tomorrow. Forgive them. Forgive them with the intention of speaking love and pride about them.
