I wish we were living in a world where there was no cheating, but that is not the case. However, is the tedious heartbreak that comes with cheating necessary or inevitable?
I know you are worked up trying to understand where I am going with this. I know you cheat or have been cheated on and I am honestly trying to help. When I say protect your partner, I simply mean do not let your “deputy” interfere with your normal life. Do not bring them to your home, if possible never give them a lift. How do you keep them away from your normal life? You can only maintain that if you are honest with your deputy. That means scrapping that “I have a partner but we are getting a divorce/it’s complicated line”. It is old and very untrue. Find a willing deputy who would respect their position and will never see a need to demand a promotion.
Protect your partner by not sharing their personal challenges with your deputy, and if possible find someone who has something to lose too if your undercover mission is exposed. That way, they won’t go on Twitter to tell the whole world how you two made your partner a fool.
When I say never bring them to your home I don’t only mean it literally so but mean in every way possible. That means you have to make sure you don’t smell their perfume or let them steal your time from your family or partner. Lastly, do not let your ways cause financial inconvenience to your partner or kids.
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