Not a pinch but a spoon of honesty for me please
By Dimo wa Moraswi Sekele
When cooking you probably saw the “pinch of salt for taste” instruction but when it comes to honesty in any form I wish you a spoonful of it. This is what a pinch of honesty will say on a Monday while you smelling like brewery and your eyes looking like you just survived a tear gas attack, ”it seems like you didn’t get enough sleep last night” and a spoonful of it will be “you smell like brewery and look like a hobo”.
You see when it comes to honesty especially on the part of people you have allowed in your life as friends it is non-negotiable, you need the kind of friends who will call you at 00:00 on a Sunday night to ask you why are you sleeping while you broke? The kind of friends who will remind you all the important stuff in life and I am about to believe there are those type of value add spoon filled friends who truly care about you.
I know the reason you went out on Friday/Saturday night or Thursday night even was because a friend invited you out. But how many can say I am employed today because my friend drove me to the interview, that is extreme I guess but how many have forwarded you the vacancy advert at their work place but never hesitated to forward to you the meme’s and funny videos or their screen grab conversations with the 1000 side partners you guys spend hours talking about. How many can say I am running a business today because my friend willingly gave me his bright idea borrowed me the R500 we were supposed to drink during the weekend to start, nah all you get from your friends is a hook-up with the next sexiest guy or chick and an updated events calendar like you are a DJ lol smh.
You see we are choosing our friends based on a level of mediocrity, the more mediocre the better because we don’t want the truth. We don’t want to be reminded; we are probably 20 something years old and still own nothing, well I get it the economic conditions are not conducive but what are you doing with your life? Yes, none of your friends are honest enough to call you and ask you what you are doing with your life or at-least plan to do with it.
So I recommend you start exercising honesty on people you claim you care about, tell them my friend your weave is too old (if they don’t afford a new one a barber cost only R20). Tell that guy he looks like a hobo a little shaving won’t hurt, tell him he is too old to be bragging about cheating or even worse chasing young girls. I am not saying judge your friends, I am saying be a vivid mirror with a voice to them, a big nose should be big so will a bad breath, bad habits and childish conversations.
I really just want for you to grow up, lift your friends with you. Those who are too heavy to carry leave behind but with a spoon or 2 of honesty, I can assure you every one would appreciate a little unfiltered honesty from their friends rather than strangers, because you not only a reflection of the people you spend time with but a product of their habits.
Feel free to share, add or debate this piece with your friends and colleagues because you reading it alone won’t benefit the people around you like it would if everyone knew what you need to start doing for a healthy ‘friendship’.
Two full spoons of honesty anyone??
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