How To Control the Inner Voice In Your Head: Simple Steps To Stop Being Your Worst Enemy.
Imagine always being mad and upset at yourself. For some people this is a daily struggle. These strong feelings, even if they seem aimed outside, often come from really disliking oneself. This dislike is part of the chat in our head – that voice that keeps picking on us even for the tiniest mistakes. We become our worst enemy,, and sometimes this can affect people around you – how you engage and treat them.
The Sneaky Nature of the Inner Negative Chat
This inner chat can become just background noise until we don’t even hear
it anymore. We don’t pick up on the hidden thoughts that often hurt us. They
often drown us into deeper negative thinking.
Every small mistake, even just a tiny one, would start a lot of bad talk inside. It takes a long time to recover from anger, even long than 10 hours sometimes.
Waking Up: Understanding and Looking Inside
Knowing how bad this inside anger and hate can be is the start. When you
see how much you can dislike yourself, you realise that these feelings can also
show when you chat with other people.
So, how can someone change a way of thinking that’s been around for more than 18, 30 or even 60 years?
The Path to Being Kinder to Yourself
A therapist gave a simple plan to help overcome this self hate:
1. Every time you mess up (or think you messed up) and want
to say something bad to yourself, stop!
2. Pretend it wasn’t you who messed up, but one of your best friends.
3. Talk out loud to that mate in your mind, say kind or understanding words, it
works better if you record this chat.
4. Share this recording with a therapist or an accountability buddy to make
sure you do it.
It might sound like a mission, but, yoh, it works wonders. In just a month or 2, you should start seeing massive improvements in the way you treat yourself – you will be more graceful to yourself. That loud voice of self-hate and doubt will start to disappear , making space for nicer, friendlier thoughts 😊
The Magic of the Brain Changing
This shows how our brains can learn and change, something called
neuroplasticity. A month might seem like a long time, but think about it
changing 18-60 years of bad self-talk. It proves that even old ways of thinking
can be changed.
It’s important to remember that the way we talk to ourselves changes how we see the world. Being kind to ourselves not only makes us feel better inside but also helps when we talk to other people. Moving from always putting oneself down to loving oneself might be tough, but it’s truly worth the effort 😉.
